Thursday, 24 July 2014

Becoming a Parent

When you are first passed your amazing newborn you feel a rush of emotions, from joy and wonderment to worry about how you will look after such a fragile baby and be the best parent you possibly can.  Unfortunately when they pop out they do not come complete with an instruction manual so it’s a bit of guesswork, with advice off suitable people and trial and error really.  You soon learn what helps settle your baby and muddle along quite well.  With each day you feel a bit more confident in your ability to meet the needs of your child.

But depending on how the birth went you might also need to take extra time to recover and rest.  My first birth was particularly difficult and I struggled to do simple tasks for a week afterwards.  The second time round I pretty much bounced back; it was an all round easier experience.  For my first child I think I could have benefited from a little extra support whilst I recuperated.  

My poor hubbie was left with the new baby minus me whilst I went into an operation theatre to be put back together and then he did everything for the first week until I healed up.  Looking back it would have been lovely to have a maternity nurse for a few days just whilst we all got ourselves sorted, but again I had my hubbie and he was my rock!  

For those without family or friends close by or raising a child single handed someone to do the extra jobs whilst you find your feet would be a blessing.  It’s not really surprising that post-natal depression is so common supposedly affecting one in ten mums, with becoming a parent being such an adjustment.

Maternity nurses can help with establishing routines and supporting breastfeeding.  I wish I had managed to breastfeed successfully, the first time we had unidentified tongue tie so that set us back, by the time it was discovered I had sadly given up because of the pain.  Having an experienced nurse to myself I am sure they would have identified that sooner.  I have no plans for number 3 but if my brother ever made me a proud Aunty I would certainly look at Nursing Personnel and possibly gift him a maternity nurse.  I think it would be a bigger shock for him as he is used to his bachelor lifestyle!!!  It was a big enough shock for me and I was relatively prepared to become a mum, I certainly read enough books anyway!

1 comment:

  1. I found this a really interesting and useful post (thank you) we are currently trying for a baby and I worry how I might cope as I have multiple sclerosis and suffer with extreme fatigue and muscle weakness. The importance of a support network is becoming very apparent to me as I read more about people's experience (whether they have MS or not) Thanks for posting.