Wednesday, 13 August 2014

How to talk to your children about contraception

Many parents dread having chats with their kids about sex, but these conversations don’t have to be uncomfortable. If you’re planning to speak to your kids about contraception, here are some top tips that could make the task that little bit easier.  I am going to prepare myself for when my two get that bit older!

Choose the right moment

Launching into a chat about birth control out of the blue isn’t easy, and it could make your child feel uncomfortable or even defensive. It’s much better to choose a moment when the subject’s relevant. For example, perhaps the topic will come up while you’re watching TV or talking about issues like pregnancy or relationships. Easing into the conversation like this is much more natural.

That said, there may not be a perfect moment to broach the topic, so don’t wait for too long. The last thing you want is to do is delay the chat for so long that your child becomes sexually active in the meantime. This could spell disaster!

Know your stuff

Before you get onto the subject, make sure you know your stuff. There are so many different types of birth control on offer now, and they should be aware of all their options.

As well as combined oral contraceptive pills like Dianette, women can consider options including progestogen-only pills, condoms, injections, implants, patches, diaphragms, caps and more.

Make the most of the web

In fact, there are so many options available that it’s a good idea to direct your child to authoritative sources online for further information, such as NHS websites or LloydsPharmacy Online Doctor. This will help them to get the full picture when it comes to contraception.

Also, the web is great because it means your child can research the subject without feeling self-conscious. After all, there may be certain things they want to know but are too embarrassed to ask you.

As well as the internet, you can point your child to other sources of information, including older siblings, family planning centres and your family doctor. It’s important that they have a range of people to talk to if they choose to.

Be a good listener

One trap that lots of parents fall into when it comes to anything to do with sex is lecturing rather than listening. Even if you have strong ideas about how you want your child to behave when it comes to sex, it’s important that they feel they can talk to you.

Bear in mind that it’s possible to pass on your sense of values without scaring your children into silence when it comes to their thoughts and experiences.

By being a good listener and encouraging open dialogue about contraception, you can help ensure you know what’s going on in your children’s life. In turn, this will make it less likely that you’ll both experience unwanted surprises further down the line.

And relax...

There may be some blushes when you broach the topic of birth control with your children, but you’ll feel much better once you have. As a parent, it’s important to know that you’ve done your best to help your child make the right decisions.


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1 comment:

  1. I've always found the easiest way to talk about anything like this with my children was to be honest and only answer the questions they asked!

    Caroline
    www.puttingyourlifeinorder.blogspot.co.uk

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