Deciding to try for a baby is a huge step. These days many people are choosing to have children later in life. Whether it’s down to putting their career first or they simply haven’t been in the right situation; having a baby just wasn’t on the agenda. The trouble is, if you leave it until later in life, it can be much more difficult to conceive. If you are struggling against your biological clock, you might benefit from visiting an infertility clinic. Before you rush into the decision however, it’s a good idea to ensure you’re 100% ready to have a child.
1. You just ‘know’
One of the first things that will happen when you’re ready to have children is you’ll start to experience a little pang when you see a new-born. You’ll find yourself looking at your friends and family’s children, imagining what it would be like if you had your own. If you’re suddenly craving family time and going all mushy over babies, it’s a sure sign you’re ready to settle down.
2. You are financially secure
Having a baby is a huge commitment and it’s also a very expensive one. Before deciding to have children you need to take into consideration the cost of child care, nappies, equipment and on-going expenses. The Money Advice Service has an excellent guide highlighting the actual costs of having a child.
3. You’re in a stable relationship
Bringing a child into the world is a magical experience, but it isn’t something that can ‘fix’ a bad relationship. Many couples think a baby will help to bring them closer together. The truth is, if there’s already a strain on your relationship, a baby can actually make things worse. It’s important to ensure you’re in a loving relationship before you have a child.
4. You’re willing to make sacrifices
Sacrifices are a regular occurrence for parents. Your whole life will change and you won’t be able to do the things you usually do. Going to the bathroom alone, getting 8 hours sleep a night, going out at the weekends – all of those things will stop when you have a child. They are demanding and require a lot of sacrifices. So if you’re not prepared to give up your current independent lifestyle, having a baby isn't a good idea.
5. You and your partner are on the same page
You’ll need to discuss the topic of having a baby with your partner. It’s important that you’re both on the same page. Are they prepared for parenthood? How do they feel about having a baby? These are just a couple of questions you need to ask.
Overall you need to think long and hard before you bring a baby into the world. Even if you’re biological clock is ticking, you still need to make sensible decisions, rather than rushing in. Men’s Health has a great article on the signs that you aren't ready to have a child. It’s worthwhile reading these before you start trying.