We have had our ups and our downs, but we are still very much in love. Our romance was quite a whirlwind; we were engaged, married and pregnant in the first six months of getting together. We have not had much time as a couple pre-kids really as we fast tracked our relationship so quickly. I blame the fact we are both gamers and so wanted to level up as quickly as possible… I am four months pregnant in this picture!
Despite our rather speedy start we have now been married nine years, so love at first sight did go the distance, I still get butterflies being with my husband and its incredible the bond we have raising a family together. Our boys mean the world to us, its incredible that our love gave us our two most precious things.
We do have our occasional arguments I would be lying if I said otherwise, we need to stay on the same page more when it comes to parenting the boys, who will go for the weaker link and try and get their own way, they are crafty like that! I guess because we threw ourselves into the role of parent so quick we did not have much chance to agree on our values. It is tricky managing this but we are learning as we go and trying to accept there will be times we disagree but perhaps showing the boys more of a united front!
It’s important to make time together, my parents usually have the boys one night a month and that’s our date night! Sometimes it might be quite low-key just relaxing together on the sofa or having a walk but the main thing is just to have quality time together (without interruptions and juggling the needs of two mini’s me’s!). Often we can be found geeking it up to board games, excited here because we beat the game finally!
We went away for the night last week and hubbie was holding my hand and stroking my face, I love the tenderness it keeps us close, physical intimacy is so very important in keeping the spark in a marriage.
I do want to make more of an effort to be more considerate of his needs, its quite easy to get caught up in work, running the house and sorting out the children that you are too exhausted to be there properly for the person you love. Vagisil commissioned some research to learn more about couples; apparently 56% of women want to feel more connected to their partner.
To keep strong as a couple though you need to be there for them, for us its dating again, we never had a chance to do much of that when the boys were first born but now with them at full time school we occasionally bunk off work (well officially book a day off work but bunk off sounds more exciting!) to enjoy each others company!
Vagisil also found the top ways to make women feel closer to their partner are: laughing together (74%), talking (67%), sharing special moments/life milestones (65%) and sex & intimate moments (55%). I would agree as all those things make a difference to me. Mind you as your body gets older you do notice some changes, but fortunately your sex life need not be affected, Vagisil’s new ProHydrate range relieves intimate dryness so that you can feel comfortable, confident and enjoy intimacy whenever you want to!
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