I am more aware than ever that my parents aren’t getting any younger and I hate thinking of them becoming frail and life changing from how they like it. My mum usually has a very active social life, but had a bad foot lately and hasn’t been very mobile, she is used to going to coffee with the girls, craft sessions and fundraisers so it really knocked her for six having to rest her foot and limit her activity. It’s exhausted my poor dad too running around after her and doing extra duties in the home, we help as best as we can but with two children, a dog and jobs it’s hard juggling everyone.
We did any food shopping my mum needed, ran errands and husband drove her to doctor’s appointments. It would be difficult if they needed to move in right now whilst she recovers as our house is still a renovation project, we also have two loud (slightly feral) children that can be a bit too much if your trying to recoup from an illness or injury! You need somewhere peaceful for TLC and you can just imagine as I get my parents comfortable the boys will kick off into another full on sibling fallout… (with loud shouting, screaming and perhaps a spot of wrestling!!!).
Fortunately there are alternatives and we could look at booking short-term respite care if needed. What is respite care? you might well ask, well it’s a provision for people looking to move into a care home just for a little while. It might only be for a week, possibly family are away on holiday and no alternative carers are available to watch over them in their own home.
The Barchester Respite Care Guide details more information but I do think it’s great something like this is available. I fully intend to make my home available to my parents when they need it, but I just need a couple more years to get it straight!!!
Respite care is also good for those at home if the main carer needs a little break, caring for people with more advanced medical needs can be difficult and sometimes you need space to look after yourself too. You can book them in and know they are safe and protected so you have none of the worries about their well-being.
I am hoping my brother and I will be a bit of a tag team, so if I needed to go away he would be able to help in the interim, but I am glad that we have options whatever we all decide to do.