You know when you look back at your life and wonder at each crossroad whether you made the right decisions – I feel I have, I am happy with the choices I made that led me to my husband and having my two boys. Life might be a bit challenging at times but it’s a tired kind of happiness that I love.
The only thing perhaps that would have been good was to take it a bit slower, I practically raced down the aisle at 4 months pregnant – I didn’t even have time for the all important hen party. We literally had our first date, were engaged a month later and married after six months. When you have been in a dead end relationship for eight years you kind of don’t want to continue at a snail’s pace to further commitment – hubbie and I were both ready, my ex still had other priorities at the time, mainly drinking with his mates whereas I was ready for something else. I am not quite sure it was changing nappies quite so quickly but we are still together 10 years later so we must be doing something right.
So I had been a bride and had a baby all in our first year of being together. The only thing I would change is to squeeze in that hen weekend, I was looking at the Stag and Hen Experience and part of me feels I missed a rite of passage! It’s not to say I won’t drag my closest girlfriends to something like this a few years down the line – because I am still due one right! Who says you can’t take your time about having your hen party. I can make my own rules.
I was looking at the top ten destinations on the site and a few from the list surprised me – Bournemouth who knew?!? Blackpool and Dublin I would have thought would be the main contenders, but I guess I never got to the planning stages and saw the wider list of destinations available. I wouldn’t have had a drinking weekend anyway given the bump but I could have enjoyed a more sedate time – afternoon tea and a bit of a spa or a sight seeing tour. But the main thing is its only one small detail the hen party really, yes I grumble I missed out but it’s more important that I found the right man for me.
Yes one day a hen party possibly just before we renew our vows – mind you who knows hubbie would probably prefer focusing on the house renovation now so that ship might well have sailed!