Becoming a Parent

When
you are first passed your amazing newborn you feel a rush of emotions, from joy
and wonderment to worry about how you will look after such a fragile baby and
be the best parent you possibly can. 
Unfortunately when they pop out they do not come complete with an
instruction manual so it’s a bit of guesswork, with advice off suitable people
and trial and error really. You soon
learn what helps settle your baby and muddle along quite well. With each day you feel a bit more confident
in your ability to meet the needs of your child.

But depending on how the birth went you might also need
to take extra time to recover and rest. 
My first birth was particularly difficult and I struggled to do simple
tasks for a week afterwards. The second
time round I pretty much bounced back; it was an all round easier
experience. For my first child I think
I could have benefited from a little extra support whilst I recuperated.

My poor hubbie was left with the new baby
minus me whilst I went into an operation theatre to be put back together and
then he did everything for the first week until I healed up. Looking back it would have been lovely to
have a maternity nurse for a few days just whilst we all got ourselves sorted,
but again I had my hubbie and he was my rock!

For those without family or friends close by or raising a child single
handed someone to do the extra jobs whilst you find your feet would be a
blessing. It’s not really surprising
that post-natal depression is so common supposedly affecting one in ten mums, with becoming
a parent being such an adjustment.

Maternity
nurses can help with establishing routines and supporting breastfeeding. I wish I had managed to breastfeed
successfully, the first time we had unidentified tongue tie so that set us
back, by the time it was discovered I had sadly given up because of the
pain. Having an experienced nurse to
myself I am sure they would have identified that sooner. I have no plans for number 3 but if my
brother ever made me a proud Aunty I would certainly look at Nursing Personnel and possibly gift him a
maternity nurse. I think it would be a
bigger shock for him as he is used to his bachelor lifestyle!!! It was a big enough shock for me and I was relatively prepared to become a mum, I certainly read enough books anyway!

One thought on “Becoming a Parent

  1. I found this a really interesting and useful post (thank you) we are currently trying for a baby and I worry how I might cope as I have multiple sclerosis and suffer with extreme fatigue and muscle weakness. The importance of a support network is becoming very apparent to me as I read more about people's experience (whether they have MS or not) Thanks for posting.

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