It is inevitable one day that our own parents might need a
little extra help, it’s not something we particularly like to think about but
it’s always at the back of our mind regardless. My dad is now in his seventies and still very able, I would love
them to continue living happily in their home for as long as possible. My parents are fiercely independent and my
mum in particular has a busy social life and enjoys fluttering around the
If it came down to it in the future though I hope they can
come and live with us and we can give them the loving care they deserve after
giving me such a decent upbringing. We
certainly have enough space to make them comfortable assuming we ever actually
finish the required renovations (I think they would at the very least
appreciate a ceiling in their room!).
Obviously certain modifications will be needed, as it’s a big step for
everyone. It is made easier for us as
by and large I am mainly working from home so can be available to help as
needed during the day. I am fortunate I
also have a brother who lives locally so he can always assist on the rare days
we have plans elsewhere.
As we live in a house rather than a bungalow we would either
have to allocate a room downstairs as a bedroom or add a Stannah stairlift to help with
mobility issues. I would probably
choose to add the stairlift just because I know my mum considers the room
downstairs to be too small for her needs!
Yes she has already tried to pick out a room ready; she seems to think
she needs lots of space to continue with her crafting and jewellery
making. I am trying to re-align those
expectations because having been used to living in a whole house to moving into
a small section of a house (or even just a bedroom!) can be quite a shift but
at the same time I do not want to give up my own larger bedroom in the process.
My taid (granddad) lived with us shortly before he died and
I loved having him around. When he
passed away it was hard to deal with but at least I managed to spend much more
time with him before it happened. My
boys have a fantastic relationship with their grandparents and I know they
would cope well with us all living under one roof.
Whatever we decide to do we will take it day by day,
as we get older circumstances can change quickly, if we did need to have
additional nursing assistance I hope we will not be afraid to ask. It can get expensive having everyone living
together with the extra food and utilities so our finances will need to be
carefully looked into, especially in light of the planned modifications. There is thankfully lots of support available out there to guide you along though, like this article on the NHS about caring for older relatives.