I was chatting to friends at a
playdate lunch yesterday and it got on to the topic of house renovations. I said I would love to rip out the old
en-suite downstairs bathroom in my house and make a bigger bedroom but needed
to keep a bathroom on that level for when my parents get older.
Due to mobility it might be harder for them to get
upstairs and my friends both thought I was crazy for keeping that in the back
of my mind, not that I am ready by any stretch to embark on caring for my
parents on top of my two rather wild children, its just who knows what the
future might hold and I think I have an obligation to have a safe and welcoming
space for my own parents when the time comes.
After all they did well raising me.
Having my own children I now realise just how much commitment and
patience it takes to survive parenthood… I guess I never really appreciated
what they did till I had my own! Each
day has its challenges but I hang on (just about!).
The bathroom in question isn’t
very nice, it had been adapted for people with physical disabilities but it was
not done attractively or maintained well.
The flooring has gone where they had an open shower. I think the health board were on a budget
and everything was allowed to slide a bit!
So when I do have the bathroom overhauled, I will be keeping my parents
in the back of my mind. But I still
want the bathroom to look appealing for any other visitors in-between. I know my mum would appreciate a walk in bath! Even I had a real struggle getting in one
when I was heavily pregnant so I can see the advantage of purchasing one of
them. I have been looking on Premier Bathrooms for
inspiration, they have tasteful products because although my parents are
getting older they don’t feel it inside their heads, and they still appreciate
nice things and lovely spaces.
Our house is certainly big enough to accommodate my
parents if and when the time comes and I for one hope we can give them the warm
welcome they deserve! I remember my
taid (granddad) living with us towards the end of his life, he used to like
watching darts a lot but I enjoyed having more time with him. I think he found his loud at times,
something my mum relates with now she has her own grandchildren. I don’t think we fully understand things
until we get to that particular age ourselves, I just hope when my time comes
there might be room in the inn somewhere for me too.
In China according to this Telegraph
article they seem very big on taking care of their older generations to the
point this village has started to publicly name and shame anyone who
doesn’t! It’s a pity it has to come to
that, but if it makes people take better care of their families I guess it
could work! Although I could imagine my
mum holding me to ransom, depending an additional craft room or she would have
my name on the notice board haha but hopefully she would just settle for a nice