Helping The Elderly Stay Independent
My parents are both in their seventies, although I don’t think either of them actually feels that old. Staying Independent is very important to them. They are both very able and young at heart even if they have had a few health scares along the way. Naturally at that age they do have more aches and pains than they used to, so sometimes they find it harder to do things. Yet still they don’t like relying too heavily on anyone if they can help it. They just want to stay independent for as long as possible.
There are ways you can help accommodate the wishes of elderly parents wanting to remain independent and stay at home.
Invest in the Right Equipment
Fenetic Wellbeing have lots of living aids which support people wanting to stay independent. With a few small changes elderly people can continue to live comfortably in their own home. As you get older you are more prone to falls. But Fenetic Wellbeing have lots of walking aids to reduce the chance of that happening. Getting out of furniture can also be difficult so investing in a recliner chair can help with that. Do your research and see what adjustments to your parents home would make life easier for them.
Let Them Continue To Make Decisions
Even if they struggle to do the activities they used to enjoy, make sure they are involved in the decision-making process. Take on board their ideas and preferences, its better for their mental health to have choices. They are used to being in charge so its hard when the role is reversed, and the child becomes the carer.
Check In On Them
Ring them regularly or if you live locally check in on them. As you get older you are more vulnerable to loneliness, elderly people still enjoy company and social interaction. It just might be harder for them to get out and about like they once did. Perhaps see if there are any organised events in your community and consider driving them there. The charity Age UK even have a befriending service where volunteers will go round for a cup of tea and a chat in their home. Social interaction can make a big difference when you get older. If you don’t live nearby consider calling Age UK to see if they could help. I am glad I live close to my parents; I want to be there for them as they were throughout my childhood.
Stimulate The Brain
My mum has taken to crafting since she retired, it’s a great way to stimulate the brain. Encourage your elderly parents to take up a hobby that requires them to concentrate. It’s a great way to increase memory function. Whether it is doing jigsaws, playing chess or completing a puzzle book make sure they continue to challenge their brain!
Encourage Them To Be Active
The over 65’s are the most sedentary age group but physical activity slows a decline in function. You need to encourage them to do activities that will raise their heartbeat and avoid sitting for any length of time.
Yes, we love children and we aim to do our best for them as they develop. Yet at the other end of the age scale :- Aging, health declining, opportunities for social interaction declining, etc. Unfortunately for some their loved ones :- Have passed away (died), became frail themselves, children moved a distance away geographically, etc. Social Isolation, Loneliness, etc are risks.
Film “Who Will Love My Children ” starring Ann – Margaret, based on a true story. Mother dying with cancer, father disabled. The Mother seeks Loving, Caring, Nurturing family for each of their children (a large family). Success in the end, though two of the boys end up with the same family. One boy having almost been left in a children’s home (he suffered from epilepsy). Going to live with his natural loving brother and that brother’s adoptive parents :- “The Icing on the Cake “.
But what is there nowadays for those who have aged. Their Quality of Life is Important too. Perhaps easy access to healthy foodstuffs (Fresh Fish, Fresh Fruit and Vegetables, etc, etc.). Suitable safe Transport to access Appropriate Social Activities which are Inclusive. Easy Access to Necessary Aids and Adaptions. Quality Family Life. Right to Privacy, etc.
Those who live alone matter:- There has been mention of Named Person for Children. What about those who are alone. Shouldn’t they be offered review via their GP (General Practitioner) as to “What Matters to Me “. As by a Health Professional showing a Caring attitude:- Perhaps a Plan of Care / Future/ Dreams/ Wishes. As surely by there being someone who Cares and can link / Communicate with other Professionals:- A Life Plan could be made. That could include perhaps a weekly or daily phone call from a Charity. Maybe a trip out by a Volunteer, etc, etc.
As people fall into their circumstances / situations/ Isolation / Loneliness gradually. In the past it likely would have been neighbours/ priest / Minister who would have become aware of the person’s circumstances and offered some assistance / Solutions. Community does it exist? Lots of changes, etc. Care in the Community? Does it exist? Is Review necessary in order to provide the love, care, protection, etc that is required as we age and health declines.
Best Wishes to All!